Notice The Nudges

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In many cases, disasters can be avoided in our lives by simply doing one simple thing: notice the nudges.

Throughout the years I have done this with my family, my staff and with my friends.

But I have also seen other families, businesses and churches fall apart because people have failed to notice the nudges when they have consistently cried out to be noticed.

And what are some nudges?

Well here’s a few: tiredness, shortness of temper, wandering eyes, stress, frustration and impatience to name just a few.

Recently, two of my staff were showing signs of stress. So I sat down with them both individually and helped them to reorganise their schedules. One was able to take off every Friday, without it impacting their current productivity. The other, I gave Friday afternoons off and on the Friday morning I suggested that they be freed from the work that they did Monday through Thursday and simply work on projects that they were passionate about. The immediate transformation in both lives was amazing.

One way I deal with the nudges in my personal life – I always book a few days away with my wife, once every 8 weeks in a beautiful romantic setting, where she is freed from all responsibility for our household. This regular rendezvous adds zest to our lives and continues to allow us to reconnect to the vision we have for our lives together.

With my kids, I make certain that I schedule regular dates with them jointly and individually. This too keeps the communication lines open.

When it comes to church activities, I have taught my family the value of sometimes saying ‘no’. Particularly in organisations that rely upon the assistance of volunteers, there can be great demands upon individuals.

But I’m a firm believer in the following: God first, family second and business and church activities come in third. Now some people in the church may find this hard to swallow. But that formula has resulted in my whole family being fully committed in areas of leadership in our own local church, and yet we still abide by the above rule. I have taught them that it is ok to say ‘no’.

And what does the Bible have to say about leadership in a church?

‘If anyone wants to provide leadership in the church, good! But there are preconditions: A leader must be well-thought-of, committed to his wife, cool and collected, accessible, and hospitable. He must know what he’s talking about, not be overfond of wine, not pushy but gentle, not thin-skinned, not money-hungry. He must handle his own affairs well, attentive to his own children and having their respect. For if someone is unable to handle his own affairs, how can he take care of God’s church? He must not be a new believer, lest the position go to his head and the Devil trip him up. Outsiders must think well of him, or else the Devil will figure a way to lure him into his trap.’ 1 Timothy 3:1-7 (The Message)

So keep your eyes open to the nudges that may bump into you and those around you from time to time. Learn to recognise them and seek wise ways to deal with them in a way that will help you, and those you love, achieve all the wonderful dreams that you have for both now and the future.

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