How To Break Free From The Comparison Trap
Post written by Peter G. James Sinclair
If there is one word of wisdom I can offer you today it’s this: stop comparing yourself to those around you.
The days of keeping up with the Jones or the Smiths are dead and gone. Stop looking at the other guys car, because if you knew the truth of it all, you’d probably be glad to know that you don’t have to pay his monthly lease bill. I have seen it time and time again – especially in tough economic times – the shedding of top end vehicles and multi-million dollar mansions because the vehicles and properties were never owned by the occupants in the first place. They were owned by the bank. So stop comparing yourself with others and their stuff.
The only person you should be comparing yourself with is you and your last week, month or year’s performance.
Ask Yourself The Best Questions
Here are some questions to prime your personal comparison pump –
- How far have I come?
- What skills have I added to my resource in that time frame?
- How much more money have I saved?
- How much bad debt have I reduced?
- How many credit cards have I cut up?
- What have I produced in the past twelve months?
- What new mentors have I added to your circle of influence?
- What new friends have I added to your circle of peers?
- How many people have I positively influenced?
- How much money have I given to my church or a charity?
- How much time or effort have I volunteered for no charge?
- Have I grown as a person?
- Am I more in love with my spouse and children than last year?
But don’t’ spend one minute on a comparison analysis with someone else. It’s a total waste of time.
And as someone once told me, ‘If we all put our problems into a hat and then picked out of it someone else’s problems, we’d all ask for our own back.’
Learn to live in a state of dissatisfied satisfaction. Enjoy today, but continue to dream and hope for a better tomorrow. But whatever you do, don’t waste today worrying about what you could have done yesterday. Learn from yesterday, but don’t stay there. Do better today than you did then, and you will be assured of a better tomorrow.
Make it your focus to only compare your today’s efforts with yesterdays – with a constant mission to improve. This will set you up for some hugely successful tomorrows.
And remember this, that to compare yourself with others will only create one thing – despair. Don’t go there!
Escape The Binds Of Imitation
For to be bound by imitation is to live a life of mediocrity.
Escape while you can. Tap into the uniquity that resides within you today. Commune with the creator who takes up residence in your heart and in your mind, and surprise the world with yet another moment of superb genius.
Attach passion to everything that you do, every word that you write, and every syllable that you speak.
Don’t fellowship with the dead. Oh, yes, they walk, they talk, they squawk, but they are as parrots who simply repeat what others have uttered. There is nothing original about them at all. And within their utterances there is no soul. Their skeletons lack flesh. Their soil lacks nutrients. Their air lacks oxygen.
Enrich & Empower
Bring with you – in all you do or say – trace elements that enrich and empower those with whom you meet. Never leave those whom you touch poorer for the experience. In contrast, may they leave your presence filled to overflowing, busting, gorged, stuffed – replete.
Don’t be as those who drain the very life out of those around them.
Flood. Drench. Drown.
They will not perish. They will in fact thrive and come back for more, because they have spent time in the presence of one who refuses to imitate and compares themselves with no-one.
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