3 Things You Should Give Up In Order To Be Happy

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Post written by Mariana Ashley.

There are so many things in our lives that we hold on to. While some of these things are fond and wonderful memories, friendships, and feelings, many are also things that cause a great deal of pain, stress, and suffering.

Part of truly growing up and maturing is letting go of the things in our lives that cause us pain and discomfort. Of course, as we all know, this is no simple feat. Moving on and giving up these things is extraordinarily challenging and at times just as painful of a process as holding on to them.

However, if we are able to truly move on and take a step forward, we can find a healthier and happier future for ourselves.

Use these tips to help guide you towards real personal change, and let go of things, beliefs, and traits that you’ve been sustaining for too long.

1. Let Go of Your Need for Control

Understanding your own personal limitations is a very important step in life. You must be willing to understand that you cannot and do not always need to be in control of things. There are situations, people, events, feelings, etc. that are always going to be out of your control. Trying to control these things only causes stress, frustration, and pain for every party involved most often.

We all do it. However, trying to control things that are out of our feasible control is impossible. You are setting yourself up for failure. Take time to realize what it is you can control in various situations. For those things, people, or situations that you determine you can’t control, simply let them go.

2. Give Up Complaining

Another thing we are all no doubt guilty of is complaining. Complaining can have a therapeutic effect that lasts all of a few minutes. But still, it is a difficult habit to kick. It is important to begin to understand that those things that you complain about—people, situations, events, things—are not what is making you unhappy, angry, and sad.

Only you have control over how you feel and what you feel in specific situations. It is not the things around you that make you feel negatively, it’s how you choose to react to the situation.

Negativity is a contagious and addicting thing really. Stop allowing things you perceive as negative to have so much control over your emotions and mood. Complaining only prolongs your sour mood and negative feelings. Drop it.

3. Let Go of Blame

Placing blame on people and things outside of you is always a quick fix to a problem. In our society today, it seems that conflict resolution means finding someone to blame and then punishing them for their mistakes.

Give up on blame. Finding someone to blame is a waste of time and just one more negative action to fuel the negativity fire. Of course, taking responsibility for yourself, your feelings, and your actions is essential to becoming an adult and eventually finding stability. But it is also important to realize that blame isn’t always the most important aspect of a conflict or problem.

It doesn’t always have to come down to who’s done wrong. Let go of your need to place blame and work to find a more productive resolution. This will help you and the people around you find more joy and ease throughout your days.

Mariana Ashley is a freelance writer who particularly enjoys writing about online colleges. She loves receiving reader feedback, which can be directed to mariana.ashley031(at) gmail.com.

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